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Quote on Sex by Ruth Smythers

I just completed Sex, Romance, and the Glory of God: What Every Christian Husband Needs to Know by C. J. Mahaney.  In the final section of the book, C. J.’s wife, Carolyn Mahaney shares some thoughts on the same subject for wives.  This material, by Carolyn, was first published in her book Feminie Appeal: Seven Virtues of a Godly Wife and Mother.

The following quote comes from Ruth Smythers who was married to a pastor.  Here is her unhelpful advice for brides and wives concerning sex in marriage:

To the sensitive young woman who has had the benefits of proper upbringing, the wedding day is ironically, both the happiest and most terrifying day of her life.  On the positive side, there is the wedding itself, in which the bride is the central attraction in a beautiful and inspiring ceremony, symbolizing her triumph in securing a male to provide for all her needs for the rest of her life.  On the negative side, there is the wedding night, during which the bride must “pay the piper,” so to speak, by facing for the first time the terrible experience of sex.

At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth.  Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure!  Beware such an attitude!  A selfish and sensual husband can easily take advantage of such a bride.  One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: GIVE LITTLE, GIVE SELDOM, AND ABOVE ALL, GIVE GRUDGINGLY.  Otherwise what could have been a proper marriage could become an orgy of sexual lust.

On the other hand, the bride’s terror need not be extreme.  While sex is at best revolting and at worst rather painful, it has to be endured, and has been by women since the beginning of time, and is compensated for by the monogamous home and by the children produced through it.

It is useless, in most cases, for the bride to prevail upon the groom to forego the sexual initiation.  While the ideal husband would be one who would approach his bride only at her request, and only for the purpose of begetting offspring, such nobility and unselfishness cannot be expected from the average man.

Most men, if not denied, would demand sex almost every day.  The wise bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly during the first months of marriage.  As time goes by she should make every effort to reduce this frequency.  Feigned illness, sleepiness and headaches are among the wife’s best friends in this matter.  Arguments, nagging, scoulding and bickering also prove very effective if used in the late evening about one hour before the husband would normally commence his seduction.

Clever wives are on the alert for new and better methods of denying and discouraging the amorous overtures of the husband.  A good wife should expect to have reduced sexual contacts to once a week by the end of the first year of marriage and to once a month by the end of the fifth year of marriage.  By their tenth anniversary many wives have managed to complete their child bearing and have achieved the ultimate goal of terminating all sexual contacts with the husband.  By this time, she can depend upon the love for the children and social pressures to hold the husband in the home (pp112-113).

This kind of advice is Satanic, contrary to God’s will concerning sex in marriage.  This is a recipe for an unhealthy marriage at best and adultery and divorce at worst.

Here is one thing God says concerning sex in marriage:

The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband.  For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.  Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.  Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of you lack of control (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

 
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Posted by on August 26, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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Tears of the Saints Video

Note: I believe the correct statistic for the number of orphans according to the United Nations is 140 million not 13 million as shown in the video.

HT: Justin Taylor

 
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Posted by on August 18, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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Packer Quotes

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Quotes from Knowing God

“When Paul says he counts the things he lost rubbish, or dung (KJV), he means not merely that he does not think of them as having any value, but also that he does not live with them constantly in his mind: what normal person spends his time nostalgically dreaming of manure?  Yet this, in effect, is what many of us do.  It shows how little we have in the way of true knowledge of God (p. 25).”

“Ninety years ago C. H. Spurgeon described the wobblings he then saw among the Baptists on Scripture, atonement and human destiny as ‘the downgrade.’  Could he survey Protestant thinking about God at the present time, I guess he would speak of ‘the nosedive’ (p. 13)!”

“Do we desire such knowledge of God?  The two things follow.  First, we must recognize how much we lack knowledge of God.  We must learn to measure ourselves, not by our knowledge about God, not by our gifts and responsibilities in the church, but by how we pray and what goes on in our hearts.  Many of us, I suspect, have no idea how impoverished we are at this level.  Let us ask the Lord to show us (p. 32).”

 
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Posted by on August 17, 2009 in Uncategorized

 

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Posted by on August 6, 2009 in Uncategorized